None of his same-sex relationships was headed for permanence. When Roop Mahapatra, 36, decided to get married to a woman chosen by his parents two years ago, he had reached a tipping point. Why do homosexual men marry women and deceive them? That is a question Vedi’s suicide has thrown up. When he forged a long-term, sexual connection with a man, he called it a “deep friendship”. Yes, I am attracted to men, I do have physical relationships with them, but I separate that from my regular life,” says Saha. Saha walked into the marriage because he wanted to build a family like one that his parents shared. “Why should I feel guilty? I was not cheating on her,” says Saha. He is sure that he has played fair by his wife.
“But my relationship with him ceased being sexual from the time I decided to get married,” says Saha. His wife resented his close friendship with his ex-boyfriend. Saha never told his wife he is gay, he is sure she never found out, but his account of their tumultuous marriage tells otherwise.
